Are you an Absent Father ? Do you miss your children? Do you wish to tell them you love them but do not know how? Your relationship with the Mother has broken, seemingly irreparable, either party sees the other as unreasonable and mediation has become untenable. The parental space that once brimmed with love and dreams of a blissful future together galvanised by the birth of YOUR amazing children, is now a distant memory. Instead, pain, hate, heartache, anger, betrayal and disappointment are the only perceived reality. Visitation rights are difficult, court orders or other barriers overshadow and nullify your rights. You feel you are unable to tell your child you love them and worry that you have no influence in YOUR child’s life. Will they forget you? This book of ten short and meaningful poems is intended to help sanitize that space. I have worked with children and families for over 15 years as a counsellor. From my extensive work and my research, there are clear and significant differences between children of separated families and those of parents who stay together. Evidence indicates families that experience this transition are increasingly at risk of negative outcomes. Mental-health, low educational attainment leading to dysfunctional choices in adult life. Whilst exiting a harmful or potentially dangerous situation is always best, self-preservation is paramount. You do have the right to live free from violence and fear. However, if the child is not at risk of harm, the father’s role should not be undermined. The responsible father is an integral part of any child’s life.This book helps the despondent father to take responsibility by lowering the finger of blame and drawing a line. It’s not about you. Let your child know how much you love them, let them know you think of them constantly, give them a keepsake that helps them to understand that they are not to blame but they are loved by both parents. This book serves as a tool, a gift, a keepsake, a white flag for the disgruntled and a beautiful instrument to convey the sentiments of a distant father who misses his beloved children. Children are a wonderful gift .
