Some Body to Love: A Family Story

A life-affirming and important memoir about the changing shape of gender and society from a popular and beloved author

‘A treatise on empathy and grace in extraordinary circumstances’ Jojo Moyes

‘Today I sat on a bench facing the sea, the one where I waited for L to be born, and sobbed my heart out. I don’t know if I’ll ever recover.’

This note was written on 9 November 2017. As the seagulls squawked overhead and the sun dipped into the sea, Alexandra Heminsley’s world was turning inside out.

She’d just been told her then-husband was going to transition. The revelation threatened to shatter their brand new, still fragile, family.

But this vertiginous moment represented only the latest in a series of events that had left Alex feeling more and more dissociated from her own body, turning her into a seemingly unreliable narrator of her own reality.

Some Body to Love is Alex’s profoundly open-hearted memoir about losing her husband but gaining a best friend, and together bringing up a baby in a changing world. Its exploration of what it means to have a human body, to feel connected or severed from it, and how we might learn to accept our own, makes it a vital and inspiring contribution to some of the most complex and heated conversations of our times.

‘An honest, moving and authentic examination of the end of a relationship… Heminsley’s writing is sharply resonant’ SheerLuxe, ‘The Best Memoirs & Autobiographies Of 2021’

‘Insightful and wise, generous and kind’ David Nicholls