The sacred home was protected from evil influences but now pornography comes right in and we’re defenseless. From our lovely home and starry nights with happy sounds and beautiful sights, suddenly it was HELL, alright? Betrayal Trauma: a deeply distressing or disturbing experience caused by infidelity, affairs or betrayal. The spiffy slut with high degrees never gets the respect she needs, the well dressed beta male with no morals or love of the Lord: you admired him girl. To move forward we revisit the past with a new view: we went no contact in order to bloom.