He was mesmerized by her beauty and poise but after he tested her she lost her power and he was annoyed. When he shifts into devaluation a beautiful woman becomes the black widow spider syndrome. Learning self-love is actually separating from users blocking power from above. First they love then devalue you after saying you were great. You’re so sensitive to his moods you need separation from trauma bonds/bad dudes. Now it all falls together in a whole new view.