Notes for the Everlost: A Field Guide to Grief

Part memoir, part handbook for the heartbroken, this powerful, unsparing account of losing a premature baby will speak to all who have been bereaved and are grieving, and offers inspiration on moving forward, gently integrating the loss into life.

When Kate Inglis’s twin boys were born prematurely, one survived and the other did not. This is the powerful, unsparing account of her experience, her bereavement, and ultimately how she was able to move forward and help other parents who had experienced such profound loss. Inglis’s story is a springboard that can help other bereaved parents reflect on key aspects of the experience, such as emotional survival in the first year after loss; dealing with family, friends, and bystanders post-loss; the unique female state post-bereavement of shame and sorrow at failing, or somehow not fulfilling your role; the importance of community; recognizing society’s inability to deal with grief and loss; how loss breeds compassion; coping with anniversaries; and beginning the work of integration (as opposed to healing ).