Don’t Send Me Flowers When I’m Dead: Voices of Rural Elderly

This extraordinary book is yet another example of a growing tradition–a literature of compelling and edifying oral history. Dr. Salber has worked for years in one of North Carolina’s rural areas, and doing so, has come to know certain elderly people rather well. She has attended their physical complaints, but she has also wanted to know how they live, what they hope for, and what they worry about. She has asked them to speak on the record, to declare to others what occurs to them in the waning hours of their particular lives. The result is a series of American voices reminding us what it has been like for relatively vulnerable, if not defenseless, southern country folk in this rapidly disappearing 20th century.

They are men and women, blacks and whites, Dr. Salber’s teachers. The North Carolinians in this book have no trouble giving us a good measure of open-eyed social comment, not to mention intelligent self-scrutiny and astute moral reflection. These pages glow with all that… . This book represents an intense and unyielding ethical as well as medical and literary commitment by a most impressive physician. –Robert Coles